Love, Aya.
Tag: anxiety
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Stress is a worldwide epidemic. The reason are busy lifestyles, jobs that require full attention and social media. People are obsessed with personal image, have therefore started to get easily distracted, over-think and worry much, have personal drama, poor sleep and health issues such as inflammation and fatigue. This guideline will help you to principle and govern inner peace and centre you quickly in every situation.
MAGNETISM
Place your feet next to each other on the ground to connect to the earth. If you sit, concentrate on how the energy from the ground circles from your legs into the rest of your body. Charge yourself. If you can take your shoes off, and walk barefoot for 15 minutes.
The theory is that earthing allows a transfer of negatively charged electrons from the Earth’s surface into the body.
NASA, in fact, discovered hidden portals of energy in the Earth’s magnetic field. The Earth is like a massive battery that’s replenished by solar radiation, lightning, and heat from its molten core. It gets recharged every minute by 5,000 lightning strikes somewhere in the world.
Preliminary studies show that earthing has a calming and balancing effect on the nervous system.
“The moment your foot touches the Earth, or you connect to the Earth through a wire, your physiology changes, An immediate normalization begins. And an anti-inflammatory switch is turned on. People stay inflamed because they never connect with the Earth, the source of free electrons, which can neutralize the free radicals in the body that cause disease and cellular destruction.”
– James Oschman
OXYGEN
Breathe through your nose into your lower belly, hold the breath for two seconds and then slowly breathe out through your nose. Close your eyes, place your hands on your tummy and feel the oxygen entering your system. Imagine your blood running through your heart, through your arms and feet, into your head. The key is to observe the breath instead of forcing it with your mind. Let your body lead, and your mind will follow.
When we get nervous, we breathe too quickly and not deep enough which anxiety loves. Get enough oxygen!
According to American Academy of Family Physicians (AAFP), those with COPD who use breathing exercises experience greater improvements in exercise capacity than those who do not. The AAFP says that other potential benefits include reduced shortness of breath and improved quality of life.
– www,healthline.com
PERCEPTIONS
Look at something far away, or even in the sky. As you breathe slowly, try to find its shadow. Realize its existence and then move on to the next object you find that is more than 10 meters away from you. As you do this exercise, along with the breathing and earthing techniques you start to become more aware of your surroundings and the fact that you are a living being.
Ask yourself three questions.
- What is my name?
- How old am I?
- Where do I live?
We open our eyes, and we think we see the whole world out there. But what has become evident—and just in the last few centuries—is that when you look at the electromagnetic spectrum, we are seeing less than 1/10 Billionth of the information that’s riding on there. So we call that visible light. But everything else passing through our bodies is completely invisible to us.
Even though we accept the reality that’s presented to us, we’re only seeing a little window of what’s happening. There are so many examples of this, but one that’s interesting to third-graders, but also neuroscience is optical illusions. [Illusions demonstrate] that these really simple things that you think are going on in front of you are not representing physical reality, but instead your brain is constructing something.
– David Eagleman
The more that we understand the reality around us, the more we realise that there are no such things as ultimate extremes. That means there is no such thing as true black or true white. We are interpreting all the time. Your world is a perception that has been filtered through several systems. There’s a psychologist name Lee Brosan who calls this naive realism. We perceive the world as real, but we’re doing a lot of spinning as the information comes in.
David Foster Wallace talked about the dangers of self-centered worldview in his commencement speech given to the graduating class at Kenyon University in 2005. His suggestion is to write your day down, but from another point of view. He explains: “Some researchers have developed a method where they say, if something is nagging at us, write about it in the third person so we can look at it as objectively as we can as opposed to immersing ourselves in a negative experience. That kind of distance can be really helpful to change our story and to look at it in a new way and give new meaning to it.”
Jason Fried suggests a simple approach: Give it five minutes. I suggest, give it time. No matter what you do, remember you don’t have to give a respond immediately. Be your own force and don’t let the world consume you.
Love, Aya.
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How to stay authentic in a conversation when there is an infinite amount of possibilities at any given point to react to something said? The balance between being nice but saying your opinion plays a significant role when you want to be respected and valued for your company and it all lays in the choice of your words. Here is my favorite trick on how to get people to like you but still be critical.
PROMOTING IDEAS
The art of connecting positively to people in a conversation while being a very honest and truthful friend lays in your ability to promote ideas. If you can show people that you like their opinion and agree with them, you’ll probably connect very quickly. Being a Yes Man is great, but for the reason of staying authentic on topics you may not agree with, just add an extension. In a small talk, this can happen very casually. When talking about serious topics like politics or religion, you may want to agree with what has been said and then point out what the differences in your opinion are. When you want to engage with the story that someone is telling you, try to recognise a fragment of the story by comparing it to something positive. Show your respond by pointing out the situations match. Keep in mind that it should just be for fun and make sure to tease a bit before you move to the next topic.
SAD CLOWNS
We all have that one friend who is always up to something fun, but seems a bit lost. In his rush, he tends to agree with anything that someone throws at him. In the following, he quickly loses his reputation of being a good adviser and friend, which can lead to a severe identity crises, and all of it just because of a lack of communication skills and understanding progression. We should promote each other, and when you find a sad Yes Man advise him to always add an extension of his view. He’ll feel better and you too.
I hope this could inspire you to be a kind, encouraging person who cares but still is observant and critical. Make sure to leave a comment, if you agree but want to add your opinion which I’d love to read!
Love, Aya ©
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A Millennial is everyone who is born after 1980, including me, most of my readers and to be exact we outnumber every other generation living on Earth. But according to multiple studies, we are the most depressed generation ever. Psychology reports that the suicide rate among young adults has tripled since the 1950 and terrifyingly suicide has now become the second most common death among college students. Every year more and more Millennials are taking time off work and seeking help for mental health issues. They point out how they experience extremely shallow job satisfaction and difficulty maintaining relationships.
Narcissism
On the one hand, we want to make an impact. Our work should be meaningful. We like to work in collaborations, eat free food and have fun. We also for no reason like to believe that we earned something, yet we didn’t do much to deserve any consideration at all. The narcissism stereotype among young people has exploded. We are made to believe that we can become whoever we want just by keeping an image. A big economy switch experienced by our previous generation is why. It created fame-obsessed people thriving for their uniqueness. Four times as many teenagers would choose to be the assistant of a famous person rather than the CEO of a major cooperation and 54% of 16 years old nowadays wanna become a celebrity. Shouldn’t fame come according to success?
Rewarded Laziness
We created a technology that can think for us and therein lies the biggest problem which ruins the lives of young people. Mobile phones. You probably heard it a billion times before but do you know how damaging they are to our mental health? My research is terrifying. Here are some facts. The average Millennial checks their phone 100 times per day and touches, taps or swipes 3.000 times. Taking pictures, playing games, reading the news or writing a status releases dopamine. We feel instant gratification when we receive online feedback such as likes, wins or shares. We have built major platforms which provide an everlasting continuum of reward for our deeply connected self-fulfilment. But what happens when we don’t get the expected amount of appreciation? What if the picture we just uploaded didn’t get enough likes? Studies have shown that the answer is feelings of rejection, lost and finally depression. Whether we like it or not, we have become a generation of addicts. It starts by leaving your phone next to your food during dinner and putting the people we should spend quality time with face to face as a second priority. On the other hand our parents had to make an effort to get their appreciation. They had to have meaningful conversations which formed deep and long relationships, to get their dopamine fix. We, on the other hand, are so used to get the instant gratification that we quickly get bored and therefore we are impatient and lazy. Well, success definitely cannot be handed on a plate.
The Cure
I want to make a point here. What if depression is just a symptom of our generation dealing with the adoption of media. Imagine we would put our minds into something that actually matters. We could make a huge impact! Do I believe that we are lazy, depressed Narcissus? Yes. We definitely have to adapt our education due to the psychological fact of technological approvement. But the fact is we are less racist, homophobic and sexist as our parents. Also, our inability to settle into a 9 to 5 job may not be so entirely wrong. We are the most entrepreneurial generation ever! Our hunger to achieve something big and to make an impact could be dangerous for large heartless cooperations but our mentality could change the world as our parents could never imagine. There is no doubt we should spend more time with each other, interacting in groups, evolving meaningful relationships but we also have to accept the fact that the world is changing and put our focus on the good during this transition. The cure is interest and we can start by putting in some effort in change.
Love, Aya ©
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The story behind my break up with a superficial society.
What about living the good life? Having sports cars, eating at the poshest restaurants in town, setting up your new company which has potential to make good profit in a year or so, having your own employees, making love to a hot girl/guy everyday and not to forget having the best reputation in town for this perfect dream life.
Now I have to clear some things up..
Golden Cave.
I am stuck in here. I feel nothing. Not even others. How is it possible to create an equilibrium and still be empty. Happiness feels differently or not? What is happiness? What about my life? Why am I even living?
Belgrade, 01.05.2017
They say if you feed the dream, the dream will feed you but the only time I thought I was dreaming was when I realized that nothing of it actually was true. My dream was created by the vision of others. By the perspective of a materialistic society and me swimming in a sea of fake people seeking cheap attention, rolling up with sports cars, all in Hermès, Ferragamo and Gucci, with a never ending hunger for recognition. Me? Not much of a difference. Even though I am denying it at this point. All I have right now are structured habits which have the power to decide over my mood because they run my life. Here is a little inside.Drive Over Thrive
My business mindset has the ambition to take what it decides to own. I have no limits, no boundaries and no shame. Always profit-oriented. I want maximum security, a triple amount of respect from society and yes, there is luxury. I feel like I am designed to do business.
After a long day of expressing my self-given royalty, the night times are usually spend to show off that sports car by making an entrance in the city and meeting some friends, getting super wasted and watching something on Netflix.
But yet another glory day of abusing privileges couldn’t numb the emptiness in my chest. I am starting to question life again. In a perfect world I would be surrounded by art, I would deliver feelings, and I would feel love. But all that is left is emptiness. Going to bed now. To be honest with you, right now I cannot feel if I am alive or not.
But why am I feeling like this? Let’s get a bit more detailed. Yes, I am building a company which does the distribution for a German brand. Someone is investing in it, we are growing and I am responsible for many people. My boyfriend – just graduated – is involved. Could work out perfectly for us! We have everything we wanted. Oppurtunities are everywhere, we feel like rulers, owners! But what about our time? Right now it seems like it is flying by quicker than it actually arrived us. Where is the love in everything? Are we creators or dictators?
Some days I wish I could go back in life. Not to change anything, but to feel a few things twice.
Blood, Milk and Ink.
Vienna, 01.07.2017
I am opening my eyes for no matter what I am about to see, so I am breaking up with my previous life. Quitting my function in the company, breaking up with my boyfriend and even moving to a different city in another country. It is the need to feel reality. What I found was scary, not estimable but made me happy again.Sometimes you have to make a sharp cut through your ego to bleed out the grief for what no longer serves you and let the pain consume you for you’d be healed by your suffering self-love.
Thoughts are running through my head. Love is the desire to reflect in something. In yourself, a person or a thing. What happens when someone actually sees me? The individual. It would leave me immortal.
As my intellect is trying to find its way through a foggy cloud of desires I am stumbling across streets filled with art and music. This city feels perfect to me. There is love everywhere here and I am not shy to share mine. The smallest forces are leading the way through my days. I am writing again, doing something that is coming out of my fantasy, designed to let someone feel something. The pages fill themselves up with words, melodies were created in the moments where before was emptiness.
“As a child I had neither a sense of the world nor my place in it, but art taught me that ones vision can be achieved with sheer force of will.”
Sucker for love
To you, sucker for love. while you exist. While all the nonsense – trying to filter out what matters to you and what not, questioning who you love and how you want to be remembered – exists, keep in mind that there is no such thing as the perfect life. Otherwise you will never understand the importance of now. This moment is what matters and how much love there is for you to feed on. I am creating an abundance of love knowing that it cannot be kept by force and only be understood by the current moment.
Yes, I call myself a sucker for love, and truly everybody is. After realizing that our fear only lives by the absence of love I am not willing to waste another minute with someone or something that left me in doubt. Doing as I please makes me a creator, for there will always be something good to focus on.
Love, AYA ©
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Expectation are a reflection of our thrive for perfection. Often we use controlling attitudes as a security blanket against disappointment but control does not bring us happiness. Instead it’s overuse causes anxiety, depression, anger issues, addiction problems and loneliness. Here is how to let it go now.
LOVE IS FREE
There are 7 billion human beings on this planet having their own unique personalities. If you expect everybody to be like you, you will quickly get disappointed. Choose to give your love to someone and you will find yourself much happier. Imagine your mothers love and how often you messed up something and she still chooses to love you. Love is yours to give and yours to feel.
YOU ARE NOT STEVE JOBS
You are Yin and your work is Yang. Start seeing it as your passion and therefore put your sexual energy into it to nurture what you seek, fully commit and dedicate your heart into it so that you enjoy the process while arriving to your destination. Success is a day by day practice of doing what you love and having a deep appreciation and respect for it. So, instead of reaching your goal, walk the way! Stop saying I Want and start saying I DO!
FUN IS RELATIVE
We came to Planet Earth to experience a range of emotions. Sometimes we will feel angry or sad and that’s natural. Remember that Emotion stands for Energy in Motion and the beauty of it is that it’s constantly changing. It’s the contrast of the seasons. All the colors your eyes can see, your mind is able to feel. Always embrace your beautiful mind for showing you it’s complex spectrum.
YOU ARE PERFECT ALREADY
The aim for perfection is an obsession. Sadly you experienced a lot of pressure at a young age and now you have to deal with this insecurities. But why so serious? We came here to have a good time, to be happy and to love. Realize that when you lose perfection you are moving closer to your authenticity which is already perfect.
The way to happiness is being in the present, not making judgements and accepting life as it presents itself. Remind yourself occasionally that life is what it is and happiness is achieved through non-attachments. Allow yourself to be happy, don’t let anybody dim your light. We are the Micro of the Macro. As you change so does the world. That is the Secret, the Law of Correspondence. Create peace within yourself first. Be the change.
Love, Aya ©
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