Love, Aya.
Tag: communications
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This four agreements changed my life so positively that I am very excited to share it with you now!
Let’s jump right in, shall we? 🙂
Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice whether you let it affect you or not. -Valerie Bertinelli
#1 AGREEMENT – UNIQUENESS
When I realized that people react out of their reality of assumptions, I stopped taking anything personally. I understood that nothing they do is because of me. Everybody wants to fulfill a dream and has some struggles.
My advise: If you were meant to be controlled, you would have come with a remote! Pridefully own your dreams and reality. Be immune to other peoples opinions and actions and for that reason, stay unique and happy!
“Let me do me, you do you!”
#2 AGREEMENT – HONESTY
Fairness, honesty, and credibility can underline someone’s beauty so effortlessly, that love always follows. I discovered the more truthful I am with my words, the better situations turn out for me. The truth is nothing but an ingredient for fulfillment!
My advise: Try to stick to what matters, the truth but also make room for a touch of charismatic highlighting and playfulness, which can make any conversation with you even more lovely. Avoid gossip, don’t talk about yourself badly and try to see something positive in every situation.
#3 AGREEMENT – EXPECT NOTHING
“Aya, you know nothing.” I seriously tell that myself before I go mad and it calms me down every time.
What I have learned is that in conversations, misunderstandings can happen, but we should not make unnecessary assumptions.My advise: In situations where you just don’t get someone or the other way around, try to communicate what you want clearly and ask questions if you don’t understand someone’s point of view. #GameChanger!
#4 AGREEMENT – ATTENTION
Be the best version of yourself. For me it means, to always try to do my best. Especially when I do something for others, I put in more attention and care. Of course, some circumstances can have effects on the performance, for example, sickness. But with avoiding self-judgment and regret everybody can shine and feel the love from every side all the time!
My advise: Put a smile on your face. Don’t bring everybody down. Just be the most kind and grateful person you know! Everything else will follow! 🙂
SENDING MY LOVE
I hope you are motivated to carry your most magnificent vibes with you.
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Much love, Aya.
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Due to the hype of Game of Thrones, AYATODAY reveals the characteristics of the wealthy dwarf, Tyrion Lannister. On the run from his ruling family, which wants him dead, he still manages to be one of the most influential players in the battle. By understanding manipulation techniques in communication, he can get people to do exactly what he wants them to do which makes him so powerful. Since I like you to have inside, here are Tyrion’s tricks.
ASK
Tyrion Lannister constantly asks the same question which is “What do you want?”. What he manages is the art of putting the desires of his opposition directly in line with his goals. The ability to not be selfish has to be learned! Speaking the language of the person, he is talking to and matching the choice of words to the understanding of his audience is one of Tyrion’s talents and one of the biggest mistakes in general communications.
WATCH
He always pays attention to clues someone gives him in small interactions. What are they interested in? Being careful on how facial expressions change when talking about different subjects such as Love, Money or Family while not ignoring the evidence of the truth that is lying in the micro expressions of his opponents can make a huge impact on the choice of later on used words. Reading intentions by monitoring feedback on lose terms is another great feature of Tyrion and “Cold reading” is also a must have skill nowadays.
LISTEN
Tyrion listens carefully in which box his opponents had put him in and he is not making the effort to change their opinion. Many of us are making a mistake not listening good enough to figure out that the belief of somebody cannot be changed but can only be reacted to. The effective skill to react and not interact is what makes one a ruler.
TELL
To be ruled by someone can only be tolerated when the potential ruler experienced equal situations when not even worst backgrounds. The fortune of connecting with people is given to Tyrion because he asks about their stories. You cannot pursuant someone you don’t understand. Influence is just a reminder of the ability to step into other worlds and identify.
WORTH A RULER?
Influence is not about convincing people to want different things that they already want. It’s about showing them that the way to get what they already want is by following you. To be a ruler can happen by being perfectly honest, just by seeking the understanding of People’s motivation and having enough credibility to make desires happen not only for you but for everyone around you.
A worthful ruler is someone who has the unique talent to cycle through possibilities of gold, land, pride and friendship smartly and understandable, not stuck in just one angle, deserving of trust by facing people eye to eye and brave enough to speak out loud for all of their individual needs while taking walks in their shoes, giving away his own. Therefore we have to differentiate between becoming a ruler and having the potential of being one. In the end, it’s all just pity party of political games which is played by the rich for centuries. But influence should never be defined by control, honesty should seek forgiveness and hope outline our ambition, for I believe this world is ready for the change.
Yours, Aya ©
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