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Hawaii Monsoon | What To Do When It Rains | Surfer Recommends

December 26th, 2017
Love, Aya.
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Yes-Man Extended

July 14th, 2017
How to stay authentic in a conversation when there is an infinite amount of possibilities at any given point to react to something said? The balance between being nice but saying your opinion plays a significant role when you want to be respected and valued for your company and it all lays in the choice of your words. Here is my favorite trick on how to get people to like you but still be critical.

PROMOTING IDEAS

The art of connecting positively to people in a conversation while being a very honest and truthful friend lays in your ability to promote ideas. If you can show people that you like their opinion and agree with them, you’ll probably connect very quickly. Being a Yes Man is great, but for the reason of staying authentic on topics you may not agree with, just add an extension. In a small talk, this can happen very casually. When talking about serious topics like politics or religion, you may want to agree with what has been said and then point out what the differences in your opinion are. When you want to engage with the story that someone is telling you, try to recognise a fragment of the story by comparing it to something positive. Show your respond by pointing out the situations match. Keep in mind that it should just be for fun and make sure to tease a bit before you move to the next topic.

SAD CLOWNS

We all have that one friend who is always up to something fun, but seems a bit lost. In his rush, he tends to agree with anything that someone throws at him. In the following, he quickly loses his reputation of being a good adviser and friend, which can lead to a severe identity crises, and all of it just because of a lack of communication skills and understanding progression. We should promote each other, and when you find a sad Yes Man advise him to always add an extension of his view. He’ll feel better and you too.

I hope this could inspire you to be a kind, encouraging person who cares but still is observant and critical. Make sure to leave a comment, if you agree but want to add your opinion which I’d love to read!

Love, Aya ©
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Marshmallow Moon

July 12th, 2017
An open space of joyful matter was making me smile every time I entered it. You lightened my thoughts, not knowing that I completely lost myself in you. My starved eyes never experienced the great, sparkle now from extasy, buzzed by the moment of feeling your presence.

Teasing my way in the realm of your goddess, millions of tickling elves raise above my shoulders, melting together their power, to yet easily set me up with wings and make me fly for I have just understood what love is. I am flying for you, my love. Your tender approach hit me harder than any force on earth. Unarmed I am forever devoted to you.

Now, tell me before you’ll leave me again. Who are you? Your game is too devine for me to understand, for I am just another girl who loves. But you keep reminding me for your hungry need of me. Hurry now my love; I am dying.

Fearless I have faced existing, proved you my brave Lionheart but yet still you try to play me, unconscious of the beauty you are revealed to. Run love; soon there will be nothing left in me. Not even life itself. Before I’ll get to meet you, the thing you loved about me, the thing that changed you, will be dead.

Enslave your pride, your overweight greed and anger and you’ll be forgiven. I already starved, prayed and served for the two of us. In return I want you to reveal your mellow face to me, for I could have never imagined that the moon does in fact really smile and just before I knew he did, he did it only for me.

Yours, Aya.©
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Perfection And Loneliness

July 10th, 2017
Do you ever find yourself going to bed lonley, wishing for the ideal partner to come into your life and make it complete? Dreaming about how life would be with the perfect person? I want to draw your attention to what it is exactly that is leaving you feeling empty at night and how to quickly fix it.

Comforting Illusion

We tend to look outside of ourselves for perfection. Some men are only looking for the way a woman carries herself. The way she looks and represents her image. On the other hand, women tend to value a guy not only by his looks but also on how independent and successful he gives himself. We are looking for another half to complete our persona.

But always remember to fill your cup first. For now, your idea of perfection may be just another illusion of quick pleasure. Exposing your own head game by allowing imperfections to happen, revealing the misconception of your ideal, for the reason of an emotional growth and the comfort of later on true love.

Be simple in action and thought, patient according to how things are and compassionate toward yourself. And when the person comes who values you for you, with the same amount of love, patience and compassion, your perception of beauty will change for it was good to sacrifice accurate devotion for feelings of true emotion.

Ready For You In Time

Maybe it is good that your life does not feel perfect right now, for it would be a pity if you would find yourself not exploring the depth of your senses. What it means for you to love, starting by yourself. To be cold but create heat. Perfection is yet just another magic trick which only those can see who believe in its existence. Don’t aim to be an illusion. Be magic.

Love, Aya ©
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The Updated American Dream

July 7th, 2017
In a world where you can be anything; what is it that you really want? The “American Dream” is yet just another step away from choosing the wrong path and falling in the circle of false desires over and over again. Never feeling truly fulfilled while losing years to build a career that is not made for your true destiny. What happens when you settle in for something you’re not that into? Especially now people have the ability to chose globally for what they are looking for, which can lead to disorientation. Feeling lost sometimes can be part of our journey, but in fact it should not be that way. The following will reveal what it is we are striving for and how we can find peace among the way of developing our true life purpose.

MONKEY’S IN PARADISE

On a warm day, a man took a long walk. Accidently and unaware he walked into paradise. He was tired after walking so much and thought of resting somewhere. He saw a tree with green grass underneath. So he lay down there and fall asleep. A few hours later he woke up, well rested but a bit hungry. He thought about all the nicest things he ever wanted to eat in his life and instantly all of it appeared in front of him. Hungry people don’t ask questions, so the food came, and he ate. Then he got thirsty and wished for drinks. Immediately it appeared and he even got a little bit drunk.

What happens when we get everything we want? In other words, when we could be anyone we want to be? We start to become monkey’s, making unnecessary moves, losing control and even start to imitate others in terms of comparing and competing. That means having a full-time job of not being ourselves. These qualities of behavior are the same as of the one of an unestablished mind. Let’s end our little story.

The man with the mind of a monkey looked around him and questioned why the food came and the drinks. There must be ghosts around here, he thought. So ghosts resulted. He panicked the ghosts would surround and torture him. So they did. Screaming in pain, he started to think of how they would kill him and so he died.

NO ONE’S A SAINT

This short story should demonstrate our thought process. It means don’t go looking for things you don’t want. To discover your life’s purpose, to work on yourself long term and never look back and regret your decisions you need to know what it exactly is that you want?

Luckily all humans thrive for the same things, catagorized in 4 dimensions. We all want pleasantness in ourselves and pleasantness around ourselves. Let me break it down for you. In our body, we call it health and pleasure. If it happens in our mind, we call it peace and joy. In our emotion it is love and compassion. If it is going on in our energy, we call it blissfulness and extasy.

Body – Health and Pleasure

Mind – Peace and Joy

Emotion – Love and Compassion

Energy – Blissfulness and Extasy

For the question of what you are looking for, this is it. No matter where you can find it, in particular. In no case you have to aim for being a saint, That’s for sure!

For example. A business man is sitting in a bar, boozed after a successful day surrounded by beautiful women but he still wants the same thing as someone sitting in the church having totally different perspectives of live. It is all about pleasantness within and pleasantness around. So, if this is what we want to create, I think its time to address it directly.

THE UNCONSCIOUS PROCESS OF CREATION

Your mind has essentials such as hunger and thirst which you need in silence. If you are hungry and someone gives you food, you will not hesitate to eat and the same is with thirst. Everything above our fundamental needs comes with questioning, doubts and fear. Living your purpose has already happened because it is you that has happened. And even if you fall a hundred times, it just means that there are a hundred things to learn. There is no such thing as failure. When adjusting your environment with feelings of peace, joy, excitement and love for yourself and people around you, your mind gets organized and the way you think starts to become how you feel. Your emotions get stable, your energy follows. Your body adapts along the way, and so does the world and what you want to create for yourself. It is a phenomenon. In a period of four hours an eaten piece of bread can become human. There is something in us that allows the creation of life. A process which happens unconsciously but rapidly. You are not a mess, or lost, purposeless. You have the power to create for that reason you are a production. Not a saint but an individual.

Look, I don’t want you to be all peaceful and nerdy, but just to be aware of who you are and to wear it with dignity, pride and self-confidence for the human you are is not something you can define but something that defines itself. Develop yourself from being just a creation to the creator himself.

Love, Aya ©
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Upgrade Your Brain

July 4th, 2017
Have you ever questioned why someone you know gets everything he or she wants? Maybe stay skinny all year long, have healthy relationships or manage a good job. Well, when I first started writing I knew I wanted to make an impact on people and their freedom. Sadly the majority of people have a lack of understanding what true freedom exactly is and how it feels to thrive for perfection without even trying. The following will reveal how to upgrade your brain and never look back.

THE REPTILIAN MIND

As human beings, we spend most of our lives functioning in states of lower consciousness where we are principally concerned with ourselves, our survival and our success narrowly defined. Neuroscientist speak of a lower part of the brain, the so-called „Reptilian Mind.“ Under its control we strike when we get hit, blame others for our mistakes or suffer from a lack of self-control and discipline. A flattering self-image created by our lower consciousness is what keeps us achieving the main forces of life, including having a job, other responsibilities like relationships, and the need to fulfil some desires and goals among the way.

HIGHER CONSCIOUSNESS

Rare moments when there is no threat or expectation among us perhaps late at night, or early in the morning when our bodies are relaxed, and our mind is in peace we experience the privilege to access the higher consciousness, or „Neocortex.“ It generates creation, manifestation, imagination, awareness, development, logical thinking, objectivity, empathy and most importantly: consciousness. Keanu Reeve’s character’s name ‘Neo’ in The Matrix movie was derived from the understanding of the neo-cortex section of the human mind. What happens is that we lose the need to hold on to our ego and change our belief to a universal perspective. In this state, our mind goes beyond its interest and craving, and we start to imagine other people and their behaviors without judging them, but by trying to understand the forces of their reptilian mind. We begin to view their behavior as a symptom of hurt rather than evil. It’s the mind of the creator which is no longer explaining itself but now makes an effort to explain others. We also start to understand that the biggest force of life is not money, aggression or fear but love. We manage to see the beauty, vulnerability, and kindness of the earth and our place in it. Our own life starts to look less precious to us and trees, clouds, the wind or the moon feel most valuable to us. Urgency disappears, we are more observant and now able to think rationally.

LET ME UPGRADE YOU

Here comes the magic. What if you could find the key to access your higher consciousness all the time and start adjusting your life decisions according to your new abilities. Well, the magic component you need to understand is duality. Albert Einstein said: “You cannot solve a problem from the same consciousness that created it. You must learn to see the world anew.” And this is how it goes. Always keep in mind that your brain is already brilliant and awake, but first, you need to detach yourself from your ambition, emotion, and any desire and then differentiate your needs to your emotion. Okay, so now you probably think I want to create Frankenstein, but the fact is we should not trust our feelings! Our present reality is just an image created by ourselves and our surroundings. We are constantly exposed to advertising and social media. False intuition nowadays can have a harmful impact on us, and we should not rely on something so fragile like a bit of emotion. Detach yourself from yourself for a moment and decide your thinking while reprogramming takes place and over time becomes automatically once you persistently apply it. It is true self-love that provides the key to understand duality and therefore our true freedom, our life purpose and the magnificent feeling of true emotion.

Love, Aya ©
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My Generation Is Lazy And Depressed

July 3rd, 2017
A Millennial is everyone who is born after 1980, including me, most of my readers and to be exact we outnumber every other generation living on Earth. But according to multiple studies, we are the most depressed generation ever. Psychology reports that the suicide rate among young adults has tripled since the 1950 and terrifyingly suicide has now become the second most common death among college students. Every year more and more Millennials are taking time off work and seeking help for mental health issues. They point out how they experience extremely shallow job satisfaction and difficulty maintaining relationships.

Narcissism

On the one hand, we want to make an impact. Our work should be meaningful. We like to work in collaborations, eat free food and have fun. We also for no reason like to believe that we earned something, yet we didn’t do much to deserve any consideration at all. The narcissism stereotype among young people has exploded. We are made to believe that we can become whoever we want just by keeping an image. A big economy switch experienced by our previous generation is why. It created fame-obsessed people thriving for their uniqueness. Four times as many teenagers would choose to be the assistant of a famous person rather than the CEO of a major cooperation and 54% of 16 years old nowadays wanna become a celebrity. Shouldn’t fame come according to success?

Rewarded Laziness

We created a technology that can think for us and therein lies the biggest problem which ruins the lives of young people. Mobile phones. You probably heard it a billion times before but do you know how damaging they are to our mental health? My research is terrifying. Here are some facts. The average Millennial checks their phone 100 times per day and touches, taps or swipes 3.000 times. Taking pictures, playing games, reading the news or writing a status releases dopamine. We feel instant gratification when we receive online feedback such as likes, wins or shares. We have built major platforms which provide an everlasting continuum of reward for our deeply connected self-fulfilment. But what happens when we don’t get the expected amount of appreciation? What if the picture we just uploaded didn’t get enough likes? Studies have shown that the answer is feelings of rejection, lost and finally depression. Whether we like it or not, we have become a generation of addicts. It starts by leaving your phone next to your food during dinner and putting the people we should spend quality time with face to face as a second priority. On the other hand our parents had to make an effort to get their appreciation. They had to have meaningful conversations which formed deep and long relationships, to get their dopamine fix. We, on the other hand, are so used to get the instant gratification that we quickly get bored and therefore we are impatient and lazy. Well, success definitely cannot be handed on a plate.

The Cure

I want to make a point here. What if depression is just a symptom of our generation dealing with the adoption of media. Imagine we would put our minds into something that actually matters. We could make a huge impact! Do I believe that we are lazy, depressed Narcissus? Yes. We definitely have to adapt our education due to the psychological fact of technological approvement. But the fact is we are less racist, homophobic and sexist as our parents. Also, our inability to settle into a 9 to 5 job may not be so entirely wrong. We are the most entrepreneurial generation ever! Our hunger to achieve something big and to make an impact could be dangerous for large heartless cooperations but our mentality could change the world as our parents could never imagine. There is no doubt we should spend more time with each other, interacting in groups, evolving meaningful relationships but we also have to accept the fact that the world is changing and put our focus on the good during this transition. The cure is interest and we can start by putting in some effort in change.

Love, Aya ©
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CREATORS vs. DICTATORS

June 30th, 2017
The story behind my break up with a superficial society.

What about living the good life? Having sports cars, eating at the poshest restaurants in town, setting up your new company which has potential to make good profit in a year or so, having your own employees, making love to a hot girl/guy everyday and not to forget having the best reputation in town for this perfect dream life.

Now I have to clear some things up..

Golden Cave.

I am stuck in here. I feel nothing. Not even others. How is it possible to create an equilibrium and still be empty. Happiness feels differently or not? What is happiness? What about my life? Why am I even living?

Belgrade, 01.05.2017
They say if you feed the dream, the dream will feed you but the only time I thought I was dreaming was when I realized that nothing of it actually was true. My dream was created by the vision of others. By the perspective of a materialistic society and me swimming in a sea of fake people seeking cheap attention, rolling up with sports cars, all in Hermès, Ferragamo and Gucci, with a never ending hunger for recognition. Me? Not much of a difference. Even though I am denying it at this point. All I have right now are structured habits which have the power to decide over my mood because they run my life. Here is a little inside.

Drive Over Thrive

My business mindset has the ambition to take what it decides to own. I have no limits, no boundaries and no shame. Always profit-oriented. I want maximum security, a triple amount of respect from society and yes, there is luxury. I feel like I am designed to do business.

After a long day of expressing my self-given royalty, the night times are usually spend to show off that sports car by making an entrance in the city and meeting some friends, getting super wasted and watching something on Netflix.

But yet another glory day of abusing privileges couldn’t numb the emptiness in my chest. I am starting to question life again. In a perfect world I would be surrounded by art, I would deliver feelings, and I would feel love. But all that is left is emptiness. Going to bed now. To be honest with you, right now I cannot feel if I am alive or not.

But why am I feeling like this? Let’s get a bit more detailed. Yes, I am building a company which does the distribution for a German brand. Someone is investing in it, we are growing and I am responsible for many people. My boyfriend – just graduated – is involved. Could work out perfectly for us! We have everything we wanted. Oppurtunities are everywhere, we feel like rulers, owners! But what about our time? Right now it seems like it is flying by quicker than it actually arrived us. Where is the love in everything? Are we creators or dictators?

Some days I wish I could go back in life. Not to change anything, but to feel a few things twice.

Blood, Milk and Ink.

Vienna, 01.07.2017
I am opening my eyes for no matter what I am about to see, so I am breaking up with my previous life. Quitting my function in the company, breaking up with my boyfriend and even moving to a different city in another country. It is the need to feel reality. What I found was scary, not estimable but made me happy again.

Sometimes you have to make a sharp cut through your ego to bleed out the grief for what no longer serves you and let the pain consume you for you’d be healed by your suffering self-love.

Thoughts are running through my head. Love is the desire to reflect in something. In yourself, a person or a thing. What happens when someone actually sees me? The individual. It would leave me immortal.

As my intellect is trying to find its way through a foggy cloud of desires I am stumbling across streets filled with art and music. This city feels perfect to me. There is love everywhere here and I am not shy to share mine. The smallest forces are leading the way through my days. I am writing again, doing something that is coming out of my fantasy, designed to let someone feel something. The pages fill themselves up with words, melodies were created in the moments where before was emptiness.

“As a child I had neither a sense of the world nor my place in it, but art taught me that ones vision can be achieved with sheer force of will.”

Sucker for love

To you, sucker for love. while you exist. While all the nonsense – trying to filter out what matters to you and what not, questioning who you love and how you want to be remembered – exists, keep in mind that there is no such thing as the perfect life. Otherwise you will never understand the importance of now. This moment is what matters and how much love there is for you to feed on. I am creating an abundance of love knowing that it cannot be kept by force and only be understood by the current moment.

Yes, I call myself a sucker for love, and truly everybody is. After realizing that our fear only lives by the absence of love I am not willing to waste another minute with someone or something that left me in doubt. Doing as I please makes me a creator, for there will always be something good to focus on.

Love, AYA ©
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4 Realisations To Be Happy

June 25th, 2017
Expectation are a reflection of our thrive for perfection. Often we use controlling attitudes as a security blanket against disappointment but control does not bring us happiness. Instead it’s overuse causes anxiety, depression, anger issues, addiction problems and loneliness. Here is how to let it go now.

LOVE IS FREE

There are 7 billion human beings on this planet having their own unique personalities. If you expect everybody to be like you, you will quickly get disappointed. Choose to give your love to someone and you will find yourself much happier. Imagine your mothers love and how often you messed up something and she still chooses to love you. Love is yours to give and yours to feel.

YOU ARE NOT STEVE JOBS

You are Yin and your work is Yang. Start seeing it as your passion and therefore put your sexual energy into it to nurture what you seek, fully commit and dedicate your heart into it so that you enjoy the process while arriving to your destination. Success is a day by day practice of doing what you love and having a deep appreciation and respect for it. So, instead of reaching your goal, walk the way! Stop saying I Want and start saying I DO!

FUN IS RELATIVE

We came to Planet Earth to experience a range of emotions. Sometimes we will feel angry or sad and that’s natural. Remember that Emotion stands for Energy in Motion and the beauty of it is that it’s constantly changing. It’s the contrast of the seasons. All the colors your eyes can see, your mind is able to feel. Always embrace your beautiful mind for showing you it’s complex spectrum.

YOU ARE PERFECT ALREADY

The aim for perfection is an obsession. Sadly you experienced a lot of pressure at a young age and now you have to deal with this insecurities. But why so serious? We came here to have a good time, to be happy and to love. Realize that when you lose perfection you are moving closer to your authenticity which is already perfect.

The way to happiness is being in the present, not making judgements and accepting life as it presents itself. Remind yourself occasionally that life is what it is and happiness is achieved through non-attachments. Allow yourself to be happy, don’t let anybody dim your light. We are the Micro of the Macro. As you change so does the world. That is the Secret, the Law of Correspondence. Create peace within yourself first. Be the change.

Love, Aya ©
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