Beyonce had it half right. “If I were a boy, I would turn off my phone.” Surely not while cheating, as in the song. But probably to engage more, for goodness sake. 🙂 Let’s jump right in. Here are my three top features, I would go for if I were a guy.
There was one guy who had this incredibly simple detail that made him so magnetizing. When he smiled, his eyes would come closer together and form wrinkles underneath and on the sides, just like he was looking into the sun. Whenever he liked something or wanted to show love to, he had this intensely thoughtful expression. It made people around him instantly feel welcome and understood. For me? Well, it felt amazing being his sunlight. 🙂
I cannot say it more often. Kindness is a field of gold. Being seen as a human is what creates trust and adds to the basic foundation of relationships.
A healthy mind is tolerant, forgiving and positive. Not just that. It adds up to the guy’s attractivity, makes him more charismatic and a woman of quality certainly knows about the great worth of kindness. For me, religion was on one hand helpful to develop an understanding for value and meaning. If you are interested in expanding your perspectives on that manner, read my article Is Religion Dead?.
“In its purest form, religion can inspire people to serve the welfare of others, not out of ego, but out of a sense of divine duty. .. distractions can appear everywhere, and we easily start to overline our needs. The challenge we have to face is to learn from religion .. to awaken kinder, less selfish impulsive. .. Religious leaders like Jesus Christ or Buddha had the capacity to think outside of the box and therefore lived a more fulfilling life. .. What if religion is not over, but yet will experience a renaissance of enlightenment by making individuals to Gods which will create a Planet more aesthetic, courageous and kind than ever demonstrated to humankind. If so, I am the first one to believe!” – Aya in Is Religion Dead?
Disappointment all over the place. I met some guys that had no idea what there were doing. Having a helpless look with slightly shocked microexpressions when the plan was spontaneously about to change. Now there is a “problem” that needs to be solved. Well, now I feel uncomfortable too, lol. In fact, you that is reading this probably are him, unconsciously. It is your approach.
Guys, please put a game on. But one that is authentic, so that a strong, intelligent woman cannot tell but is charmed by. One of a leader.
What I mean are not just the primary reactions on spontaneous happenings that interrupt situations that should come with an open, positive attitude, but also comprehensive mindsets and beliefs. Men should have vision. It is powerful to own winds that could carry someone away.
Words and choices have to be carefully used. Have something in mind, even if it is just an inviting smile, that makes a situation more beautiful. Details make you magnifying if you allow it. Better than doing nothing and expecting the girl to be the highlight. I mean, otherwise my motivation as a girl would be low, spending time with such an uninspiring dude. Mostly I would be bored. Act, not just react!
As you may know, I am obsessed with Tyrion Lannister. His mindset is priceless and could change your game forever! Here is my guide to understand and be able to use Tyrion’s Manipulation Tricks. –Tyrion’s Manipulation Tricks
“Influence is not about convincing people to want different things that they already want. It’s about showing them that the way to get what they already want is by following you. To be a ruler can happen by being perfectly honest, just by seeking the understanding of People’s motivation and having enough credibility to make desires happen not only for you but for everyone around you. ..
A worthful ruler is someone who has the unique talent to cycle through possibilities of gold, land, pride and friendship smartly and understandable, not stuck in just one angle, deserving of trust by facing people eye to eye and brave enough to speak out loud for all of their individual needs while taking walks in their shoes, giving away his own. Therefore we have to differentiate between becoming a ruler and having the potential of being one. .. Influence should never be defined by control, honesty should seek forgiveness and hope outline our ambition, for I believe this world is ready for the change.” – Aya in Tyrion’s Manipulation Tricks
Behind a strong opinion should be knowledge, experience, and interest. Yes, but why do men like to forget about feelings? I believe that great things happen if one puts his mind on a subject, with the magical addition of emotion.
You read it often on ayatoday, expressing feelings raises vibrations. I have noticed that people like to engage with compassion if emotion is shown. Especially if intellect surrounds you, it is not that easy to move people.
However, men with feelings are attractive! Comforting and light! The moment emotion is released, and pain or joy are visible, authenticity brightens the room. Priceless!
Being a reminder that we are all the same, is what I would go for as a man. It is not weakness. A guy with intellect should be able to show vulnerability without being soft. It should be his compassion, that is so intense that it could make him cry! Maybe he is so angry or sad about the situation in a third world country. On the other hand, a victim role is bad!
Dealing With The Fear Of People’s Opinion is a rather funny article on a serious subject I wrote, that provides a secret anchour for your freedom in any situation. Read it, not just for your amusement but to raise self awareness.
“To stand out, you have to be different, and then you will make a difference. Nerds run the world. Ignore the opinion of others, listen to your own heart and live your life. What makes a diamond special is its exceptionally well ability to stay stable under pressure. So remind yourself daily, that you are up to something great and in the process of becoming a nerdy diamond.” – Aya from Dealing With The Fear Of People’s Opinion
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Much love, Aya.
If girls start to make the effort of the first move, maybe on social media, they often get excessively careful with their approach, are very well thought out, but unfortunately still overdone. A guy knows when a girl asks him to keep in touch or meet up sometime, it’s a strike before he even hit a ball. But the devastation of a potential romance can be prevented by understanding the significants of respect in relationships.
Girls, here are six tips on how to get a guy’s respect.
Always enforce your standards with action. That means, if you want him to change something, please do not talk it through more than once! Otherwise, you are not just annoying but not serious taken too. Next time he falls back in the old thing you didn’t like, let him feel a loss by changing your actions. He has to believe he will lose you if he doesn’t respect you enough to take your word with honour. This might be the biggest component of getting respect.
So, if you’ve made the first move and he didn’t reciprocate with the same effort, or you just feel he is not responding to the same attempt, and you fear he may be not that into you STOP chasing him! A girl with low self-esteem keeps pursuing no matter what a guy’s response is and you don’t want to be her. Don’t ever chase a man who won’t chase you!
Be willing to walk away if you feel not respected. Always love yourself first, so that the guy knows if he mistreated you, even though you love him, you will leave because you love yourself more! There should always be the fear of losing a person if not carrying adequate. Next time he treats you wrong, leave him if necessary.
You maybe heard this one before. Always pay for yourself on dates or at least offer too! If you always try to do your part, even though he is not accepting, you still earned his respect. Another big mistake girls do is to expect everything to be paid, which guy’s find very annoying! If he is gentleman enough to pay for you, look him in the eyes and just say “Thank you.”.
Have sex with him if you feel like it. Don’t overthink and wait for a “social norm” but on the other side wait until you feel comfortable with him. A guy respects a girl who can make healthy choices for herself and does what she wants on her terms. Don’t become a booty call by being predictable. Guys will always try to arrange sex as they feel the need, but you should still always be truthful to how you feel and communicate that otherwise, you may never get the chance to become his girlfriend and be respected.
In this world full of beautiful, smart and outgoing women, men started to evolve to sad players rather than honourable gentlemen, which is indeed depressing for both sides. But guy’s do wish to get the chance to fall in love in the process of chasing a girls heart. The final indicator for getting respect is to value life by living it consciously. Aim for being healthy, unique, loyal to your ethics and full of actions. Shoot for the stars, dedicate your time for what you believe in, take responsibility and don’t forget that you are born free! Your purpose is to be HAPPY, so always stay kind toward yourself. You are worthy just as you are and being loved by you a precious thing.
Love, Aya ©